The more decisions made before death, the less pressure survivors feel afterwards. I met Brenda when she decided to seek hospice care. In addition to kidney failure, she had numerous ailments including painful, golf-ball-sized sores throughout her body. She was paralyzed from the waist down, and her swollen body, yellowish...
God gave us two ears and one mouth for a reason. Wrapped in a fuzzy pink shawl, confined to her recliner at the age of 92, Dee was mentally alert but physically a wreck. "I've outlived my life, and I'm ready to go," she sighed. Dee's two fine sons disagreed.
What were the events that shaped you? What are your priorities? Your guiding principles? If you hope to be remembered for who you really are, disclose that person. Offer blessings, advice, insights, and bits of family history that might otherwise be lost forever.
With reflection and preparation, you can change the course of your family history by creating a powerful legacy and serving as a model for the next generation for a life well lived.
An excellent death as the capstone to a life well lived requires some forethought and planning. But what if a patient is unresponsive and has not previously documented his or her wishes?
Although the end-of-life topic may seem difficult to broach, it is harder in the long run not having these conversations. Take advantage of current events such as Joan Rivers' death, a funeral, a movie, book, or this article to initiate conversations with loved ones.